Dating someone for the first time could be really intimidating if you
keep thinking on how to do it. This could be the start of something
special or could lead to heartbreak. Of course you do not want to end up
hurt and heartbroken after a first date. Knowing some first date guide will help you prepare on that nerve wrecking first date.
First Date Guide No.1: Do not get nervous. Be
positive and avoid negative thoughts. Try your best to relax and enjoy.
Have realistic expectations; this is just a first date; you are not
going to tie the knot with her on the following day. So do not put too
much pressure on yourself, relax and enjoy the moment of dating someone
for the first time.
First Date Guide No. 2: Be yourself. Although it is
important to make a good first impression because you will never have a
second chance to make a first impression, misrepresenting yourself to
impress her is not a good idea. It is easier to be honest, to be
yourself and show your good qualities. Avoid being too serious or
boring, it will make her uncomfortable. Although this girl is special to
you, try to talk to her like the way you talk with your friends. Be
natural, throw jokes, make her laugh and keep the conversation lively.
Remember that there are women who fall for men who can make them laugh.
First Date Guide No.3: Avoid too much basic
questions. On your first date, focus on having fun and enjoy the moment
with her. Avoid asking too much about the things that people normally
put on their resumes’. You are not doing a job interview; this is your
first date and just the first stage of getting to know each other.
Although you want to know some details about her; wait for some other
time to ask her about it. On your first date, talk something you both
enjoy like hobbies, sports and other interesting things.
First Date Guide No.4: Good grooming. It is
important to appear presentable and attractive every time you go out
especially on your first date. Get a proper hair cut, nails should be
clean, wear proper clothes, wear perfume to smell fresh and appear
attractive.
First Date Guide No.5: Choose a place for your first
date that will allow you to have fun with her. Movies and restaurants
could be boring for the first date and do not encourage fun. You could
invite her to an amusement park, ice skating, fishing and boating. You
do not want your first date to be boring, so avoid boring places.
First Date Guide No.6: Work on your budget. Great
and unforgettable first date doesn’t have to be expensive. Of course if
you want an expensive first date and you can afford it, there is nothing
wrong with it. It is important to work within your budget and not end
up bankrupt on the next day.
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How to Ask a Girl Out Via Text
Many guys struggle with this when it comes to texting and dating – Asking a girl out via text.
By now, a lot of you have had experience asking out a girl in person. However, asking a girl out via text is much easier and much more low pressure.
The ultimate goal in texting is to always meet up with the girl you’re interested in. The way that you invite a girl out shows how comfortable you are with yourself and comfortable around women. Remember, through your texts, you should be portraying that you’re a high-status man and that asking someone out is no big deal.
Planting the Seed for Meeting Up:
One of the best ways to make any hangout or date low-key is to “plant the seed” of a hang out before an invite is ever offered. By texting her in this way, you’re able to gauge how much intrigue you’ve created in her.
For example… Instead of texting a girl “what are you doing Thursday?” or “We should hang out Thursday,” you can simply imply or “plant the seed” of a hang-out on Thursday night. A better example of “planting the seed” would be “Do you like long islands, laughing your face off, and great company?”
You want to make any implied plans seem so fun that she would be crazy to not say yes.
Invite Her to Something You’re Already Doing:
If the girl that you’re interested is in her late teens and 20s, odds are she’s being hounded by guys to hang out on a one-on-one basis. To a lot of girls, this screams “trouble.” However, you can cut through a lot of objections to getting more hangouts by simply making plans with friends, and then inviting her (and her fun friends) to meet up with you guys.
Keep in mind that even though you’re an awesome guy that does fun things in his life, just because you two exchanged numbers doesn’t mean that she ever has to hang out with you. There’s no social contract that says you have to hang out with every person that has your phone number.
So, when you do send the invite, you want to do it in a fun way, and you want to imply that you’re doing a fun activity with your friends whether she goes or not. This way, even if she flakes, you still have your friends there and you’re still gonna have a fun time.
Your best bet is to phrase your invite along the lines of this:
“Hey there, sugar lips, I’m gonna be going to (activity) with some friends tonight, if you promise not to embarrass me, you can come and bring a couple friends :)”
Simple, fun, and non-committal.
If you want more examples of how to get more hangouts, check out Race’s new book “Text That Girl!” today!
By now, a lot of you have had experience asking out a girl in person. However, asking a girl out via text is much easier and much more low pressure.
The ultimate goal in texting is to always meet up with the girl you’re interested in. The way that you invite a girl out shows how comfortable you are with yourself and comfortable around women. Remember, through your texts, you should be portraying that you’re a high-status man and that asking someone out is no big deal.
Planting the Seed for Meeting Up:
One of the best ways to make any hangout or date low-key is to “plant the seed” of a hang out before an invite is ever offered. By texting her in this way, you’re able to gauge how much intrigue you’ve created in her.
For example… Instead of texting a girl “what are you doing Thursday?” or “We should hang out Thursday,” you can simply imply or “plant the seed” of a hang-out on Thursday night. A better example of “planting the seed” would be “Do you like long islands, laughing your face off, and great company?”
You want to make any implied plans seem so fun that she would be crazy to not say yes.
Invite Her to Something You’re Already Doing:
If the girl that you’re interested is in her late teens and 20s, odds are she’s being hounded by guys to hang out on a one-on-one basis. To a lot of girls, this screams “trouble.” However, you can cut through a lot of objections to getting more hangouts by simply making plans with friends, and then inviting her (and her fun friends) to meet up with you guys.
Keep in mind that even though you’re an awesome guy that does fun things in his life, just because you two exchanged numbers doesn’t mean that she ever has to hang out with you. There’s no social contract that says you have to hang out with every person that has your phone number.
So, when you do send the invite, you want to do it in a fun way, and you want to imply that you’re doing a fun activity with your friends whether she goes or not. This way, even if she flakes, you still have your friends there and you’re still gonna have a fun time.
Your best bet is to phrase your invite along the lines of this:
“Hey there, sugar lips, I’m gonna be going to (activity) with some friends tonight, if you promise not to embarrass me, you can come and bring a couple friends :)”
Simple, fun, and non-committal.
If you want more examples of how to get more hangouts, check out Race’s new book “Text That Girl!” today!
Text That Girl- Why Has She Stopped Responding and How to Get Her to Respond
You did the groundwork and you got her number, you sent her an
awesome first text that captured her attention and engaged her emotions,
and now you’ve been texting on-and-off for a few days now…
All of a sudden, you send her a text…
Nothing.
You send another…
Nothing.
You wait for hours…
Still nothing.
Frustrating, isn’t it?
I’ve been there!
It happens to the best of us.
Now, the important thing to remember if and when this happens is to not take it personally. So many guys will confront a girl, hounding her for an explanation. Others will internalize it all and blame themselves. However, there could be literally hundreds of reasons why she hasn’t responded:
All of a sudden, you send her a text…
Nothing.
You send another…
Nothing.
You wait for hours…
Still nothing.
Frustrating, isn’t it?
I’ve been there!
It happens to the best of us.
Now, the important thing to remember if and when this happens is to not take it personally. So many guys will confront a girl, hounding her for an explanation. Others will internalize it all and blame themselves. However, there could be literally hundreds of reasons why she hasn’t responded:
- She’s busy at work
- Her phone is dead
- She had a family emergency
- She literally forgot to text back
- You texted too much, too soon:It goes without saying, but sometimes we get so excited about getting a cute girl’s number that we, without realizing it, over-text them. In the early stages of the interaction, remember – less is more. Your goal of the early interactions is to engage her emotions, create attraction, and get her out on a date.The mindset here to adopt is – send it and forget it. Literally set your phone down if you are too tempted to immediately respond. By immediately responding to her messages, you subconsciously give off the vibe that you are sitting around waiting for her messages. Nothing kills attraction faster than being over eager.
- Your texts were too generic and didn’t engage her emotions:Have you ever sent a funny or insightful text, only to get a response of “lol” or “k”? Remember how frustrating it was? As a text master, you will never send these bland, generic texts again. Generic texts will never engage her at her emotional core. Remember – women are emotional creatures, so it is on you to spark her emotions early and often.
- She lost interest in you:This is really a combination of one and two, if you are texting too much, too soon or sending generic one-word texts that don’t engage her emotions, eventually she will lose interest and it will be back to square one…
- Be bold in your texts
- Make sure to mirror her response time and length of text when responding
- Be more descriptive with your language to engage her emotions
- Put your phone down and go do something else after you text her
- Don’t over think things. It’s only been an hour – don’t drive yourself crazy waiting for a response.
Text That Girl- Sending the First Text
What Your First Texts Say About You:
It should be stated that if you’re texting a girl, odds are that other guys are texting her, too. While you want to have zero expectations whether you’re texting one girl or multiple girls, you must separate yourself from the pack and engage her at her emotional core.
You want to convey, through text, that you are a high-status individual, that meeting and talking to girls is nothing new to you, and that you have a fun, non-needy personality that makes every text conversation fun.
The best way to compel her to respond is to ask her a question that requires a fun response. Asking “what’s up” or “what are you doing” is boring, and what most of the guys in her phone book would ask. By simply reframing “what’s up” to “what kind of shenanigans are you getting into,” you make it much more fun and playful…
Adopting a light and playful mentality in your text interactions will transfer from her phone to her emotional brain, compelling her to respond to this and future texts.
In Race’s book “Text That Girl!” he gives several more examples of how to engage her emotions, sets a playful tone, and compels her to respond.
It should be stated that if you’re texting a girl, odds are that other guys are texting her, too. While you want to have zero expectations whether you’re texting one girl or multiple girls, you must separate yourself from the pack and engage her at her emotional core.
You want to convey, through text, that you are a high-status individual, that meeting and talking to girls is nothing new to you, and that you have a fun, non-needy personality that makes every text conversation fun.
However, you don’t want to become her new
text-buddy. Of course, the texting is there so that you will eventually
hang with her in person…
The Best First Texts to Send:
So, how do you craft a text message that sets you apart, and makes
her want to hang out with you? In my experience, I’ve narrowed it down
to three elements that will guarantee a response:- Engage her emotions, causing her to feel or re-affirm attraction to you.
- Set a fun, playful tone for the future interactions.
- Compels her to respond.
The best way to compel her to respond is to ask her a question that requires a fun response. Asking “what’s up” or “what are you doing” is boring, and what most of the guys in her phone book would ask. By simply reframing “what’s up” to “what kind of shenanigans are you getting into,” you make it much more fun and playful…
Adopting a light and playful mentality in your text interactions will transfer from her phone to her emotional brain, compelling her to respond to this and future texts.
In Race’s book “Text That Girl!” he gives several more examples of how to engage her emotions, sets a playful tone, and compels her to respond.
9 Tips to Keep a Conversation Going
As we all know by now, talking to a beautiful woman who you’ve never
met before is one of the harder things you’ll have to do. In fact, so
much of your energy is put into trying to psyche yourself up to talk to
her, that a lot of the time you get there with nothing to say, leaving
nothing but awkward silence between you after your initial, “Hi.” Never
fear! By following the following tips you’ll be able to avoid those
awful moments of silence.
Tip 1: Improvise with the conversation
One way to quickly end a conversation is by answering any questions she may ask with a simple “yes” or “no”. Instead, you should answer with a longer answer that could lead to more conversation. For example, if she asks what you like, instead of saying something simple like “I like baseball” make it a longer answer like “I like baseball because it reminds me of when my dad used to take me to Yankees games as a kid”. Suddenly, you’ve not only offered a little bit more about yourself (never a bad thing, especially when it shows to the woman you have feelings) but also have opened the conversation up to any amount of avenues.
Tip 2: Show your passion
Nothing gets a girl excited like when a guy is excited about something. So many guys think that pouting and showing their emo face will draw women in by their inherent mystery. But once the girls solve that mystery – and usually there’s honestly no much to solve – they move on. Instead, if a topic comes up you’re genuinely interested in, don’t be afraid to dork out a little and speak passionately about it.
Tip 3: Don’t ask too many questions, instead use statements
It’s common knowledge that women like to speak about themselves a lot, so guys reciprocate this behavior by asking a lot of questions. However, a lot of the rapid-fire questioning can be seen as intimidating and, in a lot of cases, very boring. Instead, once the woman answers a question follow it up with a statement. For example, if a you ask a girl about her pets and she answers that she has two, instead of following up by wondering what their names are, make a statement like “You know what they say, a cat lover is known to be more independent than dog lovers.” This will open not only keep the conversation on her, but also open the conversation to other things.
Tip 4: Forget the facts, use emotions
A common known fact is that women are much more in touch with their emotions than men are, and so it makes sense that this is one of the things that women love to get men to talk about. So when talking about a certain subject like, say, snowboarding, instead of going over the statistics of snowboarding (the various places she’s skied, how good the snow is, how good she is at snowboarding) go ahead and ask her how she feels when she’s snowboarding. This will help open the conversation and show your sensitive side.
Tip 5: Be a careful storyteller
There is a positive and negative to telling a story to someone you’ve just met. On the plus side, since you just met them they don’t know any of your stories and you’re free to tell anything you like (and even embellish them a little, if you’d like). Unfortunately, since they don’t know you, they’re also spending time listening to the story while trying to figure out the qualities of the storyteller. For example, if you mention that you had to “wake up early”, an old friend of yours will brush aside that fact. But someone knew will start to ask themselves, “Why was he waking up early? Does he have an important job in the morning?” As such, make sure to be careful about what details you put into a story. The woman will be trying to read between every line you put out there.
Tip 6: Use the cold reads
Cold reads are when you’re able to know something about someone just by looking at them; think of it like when a poker player “reads” another player at the table. Making an assumption about a girl (ex: “you look like an intelligent girl”) and telling her about it is something you should try. Definitely don’t make it too negative of a read, but by showing the woman you can read and talk about her emotional state, you once again show the softer side of you. Also, it doesn’t hurt that the conversation is once again about her.
Tip 7: Have fun with her
One of the biggest things you can do is tease her a little during the conversation. Use innocent recess-like humor such as high-fiving her and telling her stupid corny jokes. This will show that you don’t have to be serious every waking hour of the day. Instead, she’ll remember you as a fun guy that she’d like to talk to again.
Tip 8: Turn “safe” to “unsafe”
For example, in a conversation about how you’re a dog owner and she’s a cat owner, feel free to say something like “I’ve heard that cat owners and dog owners can’t have a long-lasting relationship with each other, but that doesn’t mean they can’t have awesome sex.” You’ve taken a safe topic (pet-owning) and made it unsafe (about sex). You can really do this with anything. She’ll like this in the same way that a lot of girls are always attracted to the “bad guy”.
Tip 9: Don’t forget your non-verbals
More important than anything you can say are the non-verbal pieces of communication you use in the conversation. Showing that you’re comfortable and confident are a hundred times more important than the actual content of your conversation. At the end of the day, she’s less likely to remember the specifics of what you two were talking about and, instead, more likely to remember that she was talking to a confident man. And one that she wants to talk to again.
>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.
Tip 1: Improvise with the conversation
One way to quickly end a conversation is by answering any questions she may ask with a simple “yes” or “no”. Instead, you should answer with a longer answer that could lead to more conversation. For example, if she asks what you like, instead of saying something simple like “I like baseball” make it a longer answer like “I like baseball because it reminds me of when my dad used to take me to Yankees games as a kid”. Suddenly, you’ve not only offered a little bit more about yourself (never a bad thing, especially when it shows to the woman you have feelings) but also have opened the conversation up to any amount of avenues.
Tip 2: Show your passion
Nothing gets a girl excited like when a guy is excited about something. So many guys think that pouting and showing their emo face will draw women in by their inherent mystery. But once the girls solve that mystery – and usually there’s honestly no much to solve – they move on. Instead, if a topic comes up you’re genuinely interested in, don’t be afraid to dork out a little and speak passionately about it.
Tip 3: Don’t ask too many questions, instead use statements
It’s common knowledge that women like to speak about themselves a lot, so guys reciprocate this behavior by asking a lot of questions. However, a lot of the rapid-fire questioning can be seen as intimidating and, in a lot of cases, very boring. Instead, once the woman answers a question follow it up with a statement. For example, if a you ask a girl about her pets and she answers that she has two, instead of following up by wondering what their names are, make a statement like “You know what they say, a cat lover is known to be more independent than dog lovers.” This will open not only keep the conversation on her, but also open the conversation to other things.
Tip 4: Forget the facts, use emotions
A common known fact is that women are much more in touch with their emotions than men are, and so it makes sense that this is one of the things that women love to get men to talk about. So when talking about a certain subject like, say, snowboarding, instead of going over the statistics of snowboarding (the various places she’s skied, how good the snow is, how good she is at snowboarding) go ahead and ask her how she feels when she’s snowboarding. This will help open the conversation and show your sensitive side.
Tip 5: Be a careful storyteller
There is a positive and negative to telling a story to someone you’ve just met. On the plus side, since you just met them they don’t know any of your stories and you’re free to tell anything you like (and even embellish them a little, if you’d like). Unfortunately, since they don’t know you, they’re also spending time listening to the story while trying to figure out the qualities of the storyteller. For example, if you mention that you had to “wake up early”, an old friend of yours will brush aside that fact. But someone knew will start to ask themselves, “Why was he waking up early? Does he have an important job in the morning?” As such, make sure to be careful about what details you put into a story. The woman will be trying to read between every line you put out there.
Tip 6: Use the cold reads
Cold reads are when you’re able to know something about someone just by looking at them; think of it like when a poker player “reads” another player at the table. Making an assumption about a girl (ex: “you look like an intelligent girl”) and telling her about it is something you should try. Definitely don’t make it too negative of a read, but by showing the woman you can read and talk about her emotional state, you once again show the softer side of you. Also, it doesn’t hurt that the conversation is once again about her.
Tip 7: Have fun with her
One of the biggest things you can do is tease her a little during the conversation. Use innocent recess-like humor such as high-fiving her and telling her stupid corny jokes. This will show that you don’t have to be serious every waking hour of the day. Instead, she’ll remember you as a fun guy that she’d like to talk to again.
Tip 8: Turn “safe” to “unsafe”
For example, in a conversation about how you’re a dog owner and she’s a cat owner, feel free to say something like “I’ve heard that cat owners and dog owners can’t have a long-lasting relationship with each other, but that doesn’t mean they can’t have awesome sex.” You’ve taken a safe topic (pet-owning) and made it unsafe (about sex). You can really do this with anything. She’ll like this in the same way that a lot of girls are always attracted to the “bad guy”.
Tip 9: Don’t forget your non-verbals
More important than anything you can say are the non-verbal pieces of communication you use in the conversation. Showing that you’re comfortable and confident are a hundred times more important than the actual content of your conversation. At the end of the day, she’s less likely to remember the specifics of what you two were talking about and, instead, more likely to remember that she was talking to a confident man. And one that she wants to talk to again.
>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.
5 Steps to Flirting With Women
If you want to meet, attract, and date more women then you need to
learn how to flirt with women. The best way to do this is learn a few
good flirting techniques and then to go out and practice them. In this
article I will give you a five step process for creating that fun,
flirtatious vibe that women are most attracted to.
1. Get playful
The first characteristic that you want to display to a woman is that you’re playful. This is because women hate getting stuck talking to nervous, cautious, and boring guys. As soon as you demonstrate to a woman that you are fun guy… she will put her guard down and begin opening up to you more.
2. Tease her
A great way to flirt with a woman is to tease her. As you’re talking to her look for an opportunity to make fun of something she is doing. Don’t be mean or cruel, you’re just looking to ‘bust her balls’ about something silly she has done or said.
3. Use physical teases
After you’ve used verbal teasing to let her know you’re flirting with her, you can then begin to physically tease her. Physical teases include making an exaggerated expression as she is telling a story, sticking your tongue out at her, or pulling your hand away when she goes to give you high five.
If these sound childish.. they are meant to. The best examples of flirting are the sort of things you used to do back on the playground in the fourth grade.
4. Keep her guessing
Women love the suspense of not knowing exactly how you feel about them. Once you come right out and tell a girl you like her, the sexual tension that was building between the two of you begins to die down. This is why it is always better to never quite let her know where she stands with you. This idea of push/pull is a powerful technique when flirting with a woman.
5. Escalate the flirtation
Once you’ve established yourself as a fun, flirty type of guy, you must begin taking the conversation to a more sexual level. This is because you don’t want to come across as the “funny friend” or “the flirt”… instead, you want her to begin seeing you as a guy she would like to get intimate with. The best way to do this is become more physical. This means you do things like hold her hand, hold eye contact longer, and get closer to her.
>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.
1. Get playful
The first characteristic that you want to display to a woman is that you’re playful. This is because women hate getting stuck talking to nervous, cautious, and boring guys. As soon as you demonstrate to a woman that you are fun guy… she will put her guard down and begin opening up to you more.
2. Tease her
A great way to flirt with a woman is to tease her. As you’re talking to her look for an opportunity to make fun of something she is doing. Don’t be mean or cruel, you’re just looking to ‘bust her balls’ about something silly she has done or said.
3. Use physical teases
After you’ve used verbal teasing to let her know you’re flirting with her, you can then begin to physically tease her. Physical teases include making an exaggerated expression as she is telling a story, sticking your tongue out at her, or pulling your hand away when she goes to give you high five.
If these sound childish.. they are meant to. The best examples of flirting are the sort of things you used to do back on the playground in the fourth grade.
4. Keep her guessing
Women love the suspense of not knowing exactly how you feel about them. Once you come right out and tell a girl you like her, the sexual tension that was building between the two of you begins to die down. This is why it is always better to never quite let her know where she stands with you. This idea of push/pull is a powerful technique when flirting with a woman.
5. Escalate the flirtation
Once you’ve established yourself as a fun, flirty type of guy, you must begin taking the conversation to a more sexual level. This is because you don’t want to come across as the “funny friend” or “the flirt”… instead, you want her to begin seeing you as a guy she would like to get intimate with. The best way to do this is become more physical. This means you do things like hold her hand, hold eye contact longer, and get closer to her.
>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.
Conversation Topics That Keep Her Attention, Charm Her, and Attract Her
You can spend all the time you want on your looks, book reservations
at the perfect restaurant or find the best bar in the area, and make all
of the money you want, but when it comes to charming a woman, it all
comes down to the conversation. Which is why it’s so frustrating when
certain conversations seem to go nowhere, only ending up with large
moments of awkward silence before the two of you go your separate ways.
The problem is that you are focusing on the wrong topics of
conversation. Luckily, it’s an easy fix.
By utilizing the following conversation topics, you’ll be able to attract women by turning good conversations into great conversations.
1. When you were kids…
No matter how old you are, your childhood will always hold a special place in your heart. By opening yourself up and letting the woman know what kind of circumstances you come from, you’ll not only show her your emotional side, but also give her a chance to relate. By opening up the floor for conversation topics about childhood, she will have her own experiences she will want to talk about, allowing her to shoulder a lot of the conversation itself.
2. What you’re passionate about…
This is the easiest topic to use for two reasons. First, it allows the woman to (once again) see your emotional side, something that will only help win her over. Second, it gives you a chance to talk about something you actually enjoy talking about! This will make the conversation float easily, taking the weight off of it. In the same way, after talking about your own passions, steer the conversation in the direction of hers, asking her a lot of questions about what she enjoys doing. Later on when she thinks about the conversation she had with you, she’ll remember it being a lot of fun because she was talking about what she loves.
3. The people surrounding you…
Since this is a woman you’ve spent very little time with, you don’t have a lot of common experiences from which to draw from … except the current experience you’re having. Form a bond with her by discussing your surroundings, whether it be the type of bar you’re currently in, the food in the restaurant, or the people surrounding you. One thing I love doing whenever I’m talking with a woman is making up back stories for the various strangers surrounding us. This puts us in a collaborative mood and allows me to flex my creative side.
4. Her ambitions…
While talking about your current job and your past is all well and good, women put a lot of stock into where the man is going. But even more important than that is getting her to speak about her own future ambitions. This will, once again, steer the conversation in her direction, letting her talk about herself. Also, it will boost the emotional state of the conversation, since no one can talk about their own ambitions without getting a little bit excited about them.
5. Her travels
Travel is always a fun topic, but this is a part where it’s best to step back and let her talk. While the places you’ve traveled could be great, and you could have so many stories from your various adventures, too many of those and it looks like you’re trying too hard to impress her. Instead, start the topic off about travel and then start inquiring about her own stories. This will showcase her various passions, desires, world views, etc. which you can call back later on in the conversation.
6. Your life lessons
While this isn’t necessarily a “topic”, it’s important to shade all of your conversations by asking yourself this question: What lesson has this taught you? By having this depth in every topic of conversation, you are not only showcasing the depth of your own thought (again, something women enjoy finding in men), but also once again spreading the branches of the conversation tree as far as they can go. Instead of just talking about this fight you got into in 5th grade (one topic) you can talk about your various feelings that were going through your mind at the time and the lessons you’ve learned from the fight (many topics). From there, the conversation will expand on its own.
7. Your thoughts on pop culture / current events
If worse comes to worse, use any thoughts you have on pop culture or current events to keep the conversation from falling into any awkward silences. However, don’t use this conversation topic too often or else you will come off as boring and with no depth.
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By utilizing the following conversation topics, you’ll be able to attract women by turning good conversations into great conversations.
1. When you were kids…
No matter how old you are, your childhood will always hold a special place in your heart. By opening yourself up and letting the woman know what kind of circumstances you come from, you’ll not only show her your emotional side, but also give her a chance to relate. By opening up the floor for conversation topics about childhood, she will have her own experiences she will want to talk about, allowing her to shoulder a lot of the conversation itself.
2. What you’re passionate about…
This is the easiest topic to use for two reasons. First, it allows the woman to (once again) see your emotional side, something that will only help win her over. Second, it gives you a chance to talk about something you actually enjoy talking about! This will make the conversation float easily, taking the weight off of it. In the same way, after talking about your own passions, steer the conversation in the direction of hers, asking her a lot of questions about what she enjoys doing. Later on when she thinks about the conversation she had with you, she’ll remember it being a lot of fun because she was talking about what she loves.
3. The people surrounding you…
Since this is a woman you’ve spent very little time with, you don’t have a lot of common experiences from which to draw from … except the current experience you’re having. Form a bond with her by discussing your surroundings, whether it be the type of bar you’re currently in, the food in the restaurant, or the people surrounding you. One thing I love doing whenever I’m talking with a woman is making up back stories for the various strangers surrounding us. This puts us in a collaborative mood and allows me to flex my creative side.
4. Her ambitions…
While talking about your current job and your past is all well and good, women put a lot of stock into where the man is going. But even more important than that is getting her to speak about her own future ambitions. This will, once again, steer the conversation in her direction, letting her talk about herself. Also, it will boost the emotional state of the conversation, since no one can talk about their own ambitions without getting a little bit excited about them.
5. Her travels
Travel is always a fun topic, but this is a part where it’s best to step back and let her talk. While the places you’ve traveled could be great, and you could have so many stories from your various adventures, too many of those and it looks like you’re trying too hard to impress her. Instead, start the topic off about travel and then start inquiring about her own stories. This will showcase her various passions, desires, world views, etc. which you can call back later on in the conversation.
6. Your life lessons
While this isn’t necessarily a “topic”, it’s important to shade all of your conversations by asking yourself this question: What lesson has this taught you? By having this depth in every topic of conversation, you are not only showcasing the depth of your own thought (again, something women enjoy finding in men), but also once again spreading the branches of the conversation tree as far as they can go. Instead of just talking about this fight you got into in 5th grade (one topic) you can talk about your various feelings that were going through your mind at the time and the lessons you’ve learned from the fight (many topics). From there, the conversation will expand on its own.
7. Your thoughts on pop culture / current events
If worse comes to worse, use any thoughts you have on pop culture or current events to keep the conversation from falling into any awkward silences. However, don’t use this conversation topic too often or else you will come off as boring and with no depth.
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